We all know New Year's Resolutions are a joke.
That's because this is the recipe:
Lofty goal
No execution plan
No behavior design
Uphill battle trying to do something you don't enjoy
No insight into how the human mind + body work.
Experts have already mapped out how to do it right.
Scientists have devoted their entire careers to understanding how people tick-- neurobiology, human behavior and reward systems in the brain. Others have put these insights into practice and learned what works and what doesn't through trial and error. Let's use all this knowledge and experience to give ourselves a leg up!
Daily habits are something that we can actually control.
The broader world is huge and complex, and we're wise to focus on where we have agency. When we take care of the basics, we improve our ability to succeed when faced with what life serves up. We put ourselves in a good frame of mind. We have the inner resources to meet challenges. We have more innate joy so we're less tempted to seek external quick fixes.
Why I'm hosting a 2-month peer group
Healthy habits and structured routine do not come naturally to me. Over the past 9 years of founding and growing a company that managed $70M in real estate, I've learned how to be a high-output person. Rather than being a burnt-out workaholic, I've found ways to get shit done while also enjoying life, friendships, improving my health and creating depth and meaning in my life. But I haven't done this alone - I'm the product of the friendships and community that I call home.
I've experienced the power of community to facilitate personal growth.
For 7 years, I lived in a group house, sharing our days with the explicit intent of lifting one another up. Through my business, I also launched 19 other shared living properties. Now I'm excited to transfer my background in community to help build stable foundations in our lives.
Potential Focus Areas:
*We will not be tackling all of these at once!
Exercise
Food and nutrition
Sleep hygiene
Responsible spending
Meditation + mindfulness
Work habits + productivity
Morning routines
Already in?
Purpose:
Learn the science behind how positive behaviors work
Practice and design your "behavior stack" by starting small, fun and easy
Develop lifelong skills for mastering your own behavior
Work as a group with accountability, feedback and support
Approach:
We will be following BJ Fogg's Tiny Habits model (Stanford habits PhD), with other insights, studies and models sprinkled throughout.
Do things the easy way (sorry masochists!)
Custom-design new habits into your schedule + life
Learn the process of designing, testing and adapting new behaviors for success
Move away from being driven by shame, self-judgement and negative self-talk
Positive psychology and integrating mindfulness into habit design
Using your dopamine reward system to create virtuous cycles
Curriculum:
Pre-course reading: BJ Fogg's Tiny Habits (or at least scan summary posts / videos)
Science of habits + behavior
How to choose the right habits to focus on
Designing hyper-specific triggers that cue behavior
Making behaviors actionable by lowering the friction to action
Stacking behaviors into a [morning] routine
Adapting + re-designing when you fail
Structure:
Private 1-1 intake meeting
Weekly content
Group calls every-other week (recorded if you miss)
WhatsApp group for troubleshooting + tracking progress
Accountability pairs for daily
Feedback on your behavior design plans
Details:
Jan. 1st - Feb. 10th: Signup period + pre-reading
Feb. 15th - Apr. 15th 2023: Course runs for 2 months
Maximum of 12 people
$135 -- Application deadline Feb. 10th
$20 off if you apply before Jan 10
Refer a friend and you both get $30 off
oh you need more inspiration, huh?
Why Your Habits are the Lynchpin of your Life
Ideas get us excited about the future, and then we create goals to get specific about how we want to achieve our ideas. But Ideas and Goals are purely conceptual- they only exist in our minds. Consistent action and daily execution are how we bring ideas into form.
We can use simple daily habits as a means of practicing being human. We learn how our unique personality, body and life circumstances tick. Then, as we unlock the blueprint of our own self, we can apply those learnings to bigger challenges, larger projects and loftier goals.
As you take better and better care of yourself, the benefits compound, and your baseline state of being yields improved focused, more patience, more positive emotions and an easier flow of creativity.
Our society is plagued with the empty pursuit immediate gratification, and you know there's a better way. Systematic self-care is a radical act that ripples out and makes a difference in the lives of people around you. We're all role models for each other. Let's write a story where good things happen, people make good choices and we help one another.
Comments